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- Video title: What Is Respect? How To Respect? | Thumoslang101 | S1E1
- Transcript record #1678 English | Ri4CTV.com/Transcript1678
1 | 00:00:00 | ABOUT THIS: Thumoslang101, the video series, introduces Thumoslang, the nomenclature for relationships, to all around the world. If you want to become an expert in a particular field, you must first learn of its nomenclature. As the first formal nomenclature for social life, Thumoslang is set to bring humanity to Level 2.0. For a demonstration of its power, watch Season 1 of the YouTube series Thumoslang101 on Ri4CTV. |
2 | 00:00:05 | First of all, I just want to say, thank you so much… |
3 | 00:00:08 | for everything you did for me the last time. |
4 | 00:00:11 | I remember seeing you… |
5 | 00:00:13 | running into me at the park. |
6 | 00:00:14 | While I was shadow-boxing, |
7 | 00:00:16 | you came up to me and asked me, |
8 | 00:00:17 | “Do you mind letting me film you?” |
9 | 00:00:20 | From there, we had a deep conversation… |
10 | 00:00:23 | …spanning over several hours. |
11 | 00:00:27 | One thing you told me that really stuck with me. |
12 | 00:00:30 | I still practice it today. |
13 | 00:00:32 | I’m very grateful for that. |
14 | 00:00:33 | You taught me the word, “respect”, |
15 | 00:00:35 | and what it truly means. |
16 | 00:00:37 | You told me, respect means no interfering. |
17 | 00:00:40 | I knew what they taught us, what respect means, |
18 | 00:00:45 | but I did not really know the true meaning of what respect is. |
19 | 00:00:48 | And I remember, after you told me all that, |
20 | 00:00:51 | I went back home and pondered everything we spoke about. |
21 | 00:00:55 | And I was like, |
22 | 00:00:57 | …man, without interfering is truly respect. |
23 | 00:01:01 | I then started applying that to all my life. |
24 | 00:01:05 | I started applying that to my day-to-day activities. |
25 | 00:01:07 | I started applying that at work. |
26 | 00:01:09 | I started applying that to my son. |
27 | 00:01:11 | He is two years old his name is Jeremy. |
28 | 00:01:14 | I explained to my son what respect is. |
29 | 00:01:17 | I try not to interfere with things in my life… |
30 | 00:01:19 | …and it has actually helped me a lot. |
31 | 00:01:21 | Adding that philosophy into my memory bank helped me a lot… |
32 | 00:01:25 | …with navigating through problems in life. |
33 | 00:01:28 | Sometimes things happen. |
34 | 00:01:30 | Just don’t interfere with it. |
35 | 00:01:32 | It has, too, helped me with decision making. |
36 | 00:01:35 | I’m just grateful for that. |
37 | 00:01:38 | I told myself I want to come back for more knowledge. |
38 | 00:01:43 | That’s why I’m here today. |
39 | 00:01:48 | Nick: “Why is that not enough?” |
40 | 00:01:53 | Ulm.. |
41 | 00:01:55 | You know… |
42 | 00:01:56 | I think, that is, knowledge is… |
43 | 00:02:00 | I believe that different philosophiesapply to certain things. |
44 | 00:02:09 | Without interfering, to me, is like anoverall type of stuff. |
45 | 00:02:13 | Just like, when you try to build a house. |
46 | 00:02:16 | You can be the architect but… |
47 | 00:02:18 | …you still need electricians somewhereto build it. |
48 | 00:02:22 | However, you can’t have the electrician until you start building the house. |
49 | 00:02:24 | I’m in that place in my life where I need help with certain things. |
50 | 00:02:31 | Certain things are coming up in my life right now. |
51 | 00:02:34 | I just need help set the direction. |
52 | 00:02:37 | I just need somebody help me redirect my mind. |
53 | 00:02:43 | How can I become this person I’m trying to become. |
54 | 00:02:47 | How can I create this person I’m trying to create? |
55 | 00:02:50 | How am I… |
56 | 00:02:51 | Ulm… |
57 | 00:02:53 | Yeah… |
58 | 00:03:01 | Nick: “I feel lost many sentences ago.” |
59 | 00:03:06 | Nick: Because I don’t want to interfere with your disclosure, |
60 | 00:03:14 | …I refrained myself. |
61 | 00:03:17 | Nick: I fought hard from interrupting what you were trying to say |
62 | 00:03:22 | Nick: That’s how I display respect. |
63 | 00:03:25 | Nick: However, you got me lost in the first few sentences… |
64 | 00:03:30 | …because you used generic terms. |
65 | 00:03:37 | Nick: I think that it’s easier for me if you can bring me closer… |
66 | 00:03:46 | …to a specific problem, a specificevent that made you want to come back here again. |
67 | 00:03:55 | Nick: Make me understanding a specific problem first, |
68 | 00:04:01 | …before you take me to the generalstatements you made earlier. |
69 | 00:04:06 | Nick: Then it’s easier for me to grasp what you have to say. |
70 | 00:04:09 | Nick: But you started with the big picture and I felt lost. |
71 | 00:04:16 | Nick: Don’t show me the galaxy on the first frame. |
72 | 00:04:19 | Nick: Show me the Earth first, and then zoom out. |
73 | 00:04:24 | Nick: So, what brought you here? |
74 | 00:04:29 | Ulm… |
75 | 00:04:31 | Nick: Which event, which problem brought you here? |
76 | 00:04:39 | Nick: Why could you not solve it under your own power? |
77 | 00:04:50 | Ulm… |
78 | 00:04:55 | As you ask me that question, I justhave to think about how to word myself. |
79 | 00:05:02 | Ulm… |
80 | 00:05:07 | Nick: “Time out!” |
81 | 00:05:09 | I want to explain what has just transpired in the last few seconds. |
82 | 00:05:25 | In the last minute, I practiced the knowledge that is called reciprocation. |
83 | 00:05:41 | It is the basic cycle of communication. |
84 | 00:05:46 | That was invented by my co-writer Mark Canny in the writing project we started in 2015. |
85 | 00:06:03 | Halfway through the project, in 2016, he came up with reciprocation… |
86 | 00:06:08 | …as a basic cycle of communication. |
87 | 00:06:24 | Before I remind you of the four elements of reciprocation, |
88 | 00:06:31 | …do you remember me telling you about that or not? |
89 | 00:06:36 | [Ifeanyi shakes his head.] |
90 | 00:06:37 | Okay, then let me ask you this first. |
91 | 00:06:43 | Do you know the difference between reciprocity and reciprocation? |
92 | 00:06:54 | Reciprocity is an eye for an eye. |
93 | 00:07:02 | You scratch my back, I scratch yours. |
94 | 00:07:05 | Another name for that is the Golden Rule. |
95 | 00:07:12 | That is about mutual benefit but not about communication. |
96 | 00:07:19 | Reciprocation is the label Mark Canny used to tag what he invented in our writing project. |
97 | 00:07:36 | It’s the most basic cycle of communication. |
98 | 00:07:41 | If you don’t understand or remember this, you would have a hard time knowing… |
99 | 00:07:48 | …how to exercise respect every minute of your life. |
100 | 00:07:56 | So, reciprocation has four steps. |
101 | 00:08:02 | The first step is carried out by the speaker: disclosure. |
102 | 00:08:12 | When you speak you are disclosing some information. |
103 | 00:08:19 | If I interrupt your speech and ask questions about your delivered paragraph, |
104 | 00:08:29 | …I’m not interfering because that’s part of the first step, which is carried out by the speaker. |
105 | 00:08:41 | Your disclosure is not successful if I’m not able to understand any of your delivered paragraphs. |
106 | 00:08:49 | In that case, interruption is not interfering. |
107 | 00:08:58 | If you are disclosing the information but, right after the first two sentences, I jump in and say I don’t understand. |
108 | 00:09:13 | Could you explain the first two sentences before you continue? |
109 | 00:09:20 | That question is also an interruption but it is considered as interfering… |
110 | 00:09:26 | …because I did not wait until you finish your paragraph… |
111 | 00:09:30 | …before I do the second step, which is comprehension. |
112 | 00:09:37 | I should never start my second step, as alistener, before you finish your disclosure. |
113 | 00:09:45 | If you did not finish disclosing the whole paragraph, |
114 | 00:09:48 | …I should not even try to understand the idea that you’re disclosing. |
115 | 00:09:55 | An interruption may or may not be interfering. |
116 | 00:10:06 | Hm… |
117 | 00:10:06 | You don’t know that if you don’t understand the four elements of reciprocation. |
118 | 00:10:13 | Most of us did not know of such things. |
119 | 00:10:20 | Mark Canny did not analyze the reality of human interaction and label its parts until 2016. |
120 | 00:10:37 | Once you finish disclosing your whole paragraph, then, like I demonstrated back there, |
121 | 00:10:46 | ….I said, you showed me the galaxy and I got lost right away. |
122 | 00:10:52 | Start with the Earth first. |
123 | 00:11:00 | That’s an example of how I show respect to the speaker. |
124 | 00:11:06 | Nick: “Sometimes, when I interrupt, I’m not disrespectful.” |
125 | 00:11:11 | Nick: “Sometimes, when I interrupt, I’m very disrespectful.” |
126 | 00:11:15 | Nick: “It depends on how much that interruption is involved with the disclosure step.” |
127 | 00:11:22 | So, help me out. |
128 | 00:11:25 | When you said I gave you the galaxy versus the Earth I understood what you said. |
129 | 00:11:32 | I understand it but can you help me with… |
130 | 00:11:36 | …how to correct that formulation of sentence. |
131 | 00:11:40 | Nick: “Say that again, please.” |
132 | 00:11:42 | How can I change my approach? |
133 | 00:11:44 | How can I change the way I speak? |
134 | 00:11:48 | When I was explaining myself, |
135 | 00:11:51 | you felt like I went straight to the galaxy. |
136 | 00:11:53 | How can I change that? |
137 | 00:11:55 | Nick: “Always begin with the time and the place.” |
138 | 00:11:59 | Say that one more time. |
139 | 00:12:00 | Nick: “Always begin with… |
140 | 00:12:03 | …a specific point in time when, and a particular place where, the event took place… |
141 | 00:12:11 | …that brought us together for this conversation.” |
142 | 00:12:15 | So, always begin with time… |
143 | 00:12:18 | Nick: “Time and place…” |
144 | 00:12:19 | Nick: “…so that people begin with the Earth first, before you bring them to another galaxy.” |
145 | 00:12:31 | [Laughters] |
146 | 00:12:32 | So, okay. So, I should say like, so, time, like… |
147 | 00:12:36 | Nick: “For example, |
148 | 00:12:40 | …my wife and I are having a big argument… |
149 | 00:12:44 | …but this is different from the past. |
150 | 00:12:47 | A week ago, she started this and I reacted in that way. |
151 | 00:12:54 | Suddenly, you have a hook to heighten my interest. |
152 | 00:13:01 | In that way, I first focus on the Earth before you zoom out and say, |
153 | 00:13:08 | “You see, this is related to another event, in another galaxy, long ago.” |
154 | 00:13:16 | Nick: And then I can start to see the whole galaxy without feeling lost. |
155 | 00:13:23 | Yeah… |
156 | 00:13:24 | Nick: Always begin with time and place. |
157 | 00:13:27 | Yeah, I’ve always known that too. |
158 | 00:13:29 | My communication is often scattered. |
159 | 00:13:32 | I jump everywhere. |
160 | 00:13:34 | I noticed that. |
161 | 00:13:35 | Nick: When people are polite, and most people are polite, |
162 | 00:13:42 | …they will not raise their hand and say that they are lost. |
163 | 00:13:47 | Nick: Instead, they continue sitting pretty and pretending like they’re listening. |
164 | 00:13:53 | Nick: However, as you’re talking and while they’re feeling lost, |
165 | 00:13:56 | Nick: …they think about other problems in their life. |
166 | 00:13:59 | Nick: Because they couldn’t follow youand yet they don’t want to interrupt. |
167 | 00:14:06 | Nick: If they did that, they interfere, disrespect the conversation. |
168 | 00:14:15 | Nick: They disrespect their time. |
169 | 00:14:17 | Nick: They disrespect your time, |
170 | 00:14:20 | …as the communication cycle fails. |
171 | 00:14:26 | Nick: As a listener, you have to interrupt when the communication cycle fails. |
172 | 00:14:35 | Nick: Otherwise, without your interruption, the speaker goes on and on, |
173 | 00:14:41 | … and waste everyone’s time. |
174 | 00:14:48 | Well… |
175 | 00:14:49 | Nick: Knowing when to interrupt, and when not interrupt, |
176 | 00:14:53 | …could not be nailed down as a science until 2016, |
177 | 00:14:59 | …when that knowledge was spelled out mathematically. |
178 | 00:15:06 | I like that. |
179 | 00:15:09 | I’m very… That’s why I was coming back. |
180 | 00:15:12 | I come back for more knowledge. |
181 | 00:15:15 | This is the only place that I know for sure you can dissect me and break me down, |
182 | 00:15:22 | …and really show me what I need to do and how I need to grow as a person. |
183 | 00:15:27 | I’m a very good student. |
184 | 00:15:29 | I want to learn. |
185 | 00:15:31 | I want to be a great male one day. |
186 | 00:15:34 | I want to be a leader. |
187 | 00:15:37 | I want to lead my people. |
188 | 00:15:38 | I want to lead people. |
189 | 00:15:39 | I want to… |
190 | 00:15:40 | Nick: “There you go again.” |
191 | 00:15:44 | Nick: “You are taking me away from the Earth, before you show me the Earth.” |
192 | 00:15:49 | So, you bring that up… |
193 | 00:15:50 | Nick: “You are wasting your time and my time again.” |
194 | 00:15:53 | Really, break it down for me. |
195 | 00:15:55 | Nick: “Start with the time and place of your problem.” |
196 | 00:15:58 | Nick: “What’s the specific problem that brought you here?” |
197 | 00:16:03 | Oh no, but I wasn’t talking about a problem. |
198 | 00:16:05 | I was just thanking you. |
199 | 00:16:07 | I’m thanking you. |
200 | 00:16:08 | Nick: “You are not telling me anything that I didn’t know.” |
201 | 00:16:11 | [Laughing] |
202 | 00:16:11 | Nick: “You want to learn.” |
203 | 00:16:13 | Yeah |
204 | 00:16:14 | Nick: “That’s why you’re here.” |
205 | 00:16:15 | Nick: “If you tell me that once, not bad; twice, not way too bad.” |
206 | 00:16:23 | Nick: “But I hear that several times today already.” |
207 | 00:16:27 | Nick: And I thus say, wait a minute, |
208 | 00:16:29 | Nick: …why did he keep telling me all of that again and again? |
209 | 00:16:32 | Ah… |
210 | 00:16:33 | Nick: In there, out here |
211 | 00:16:34 | Ah… |
212 | 00:16:35 | So, I said that numerous times. |
213 | 00:16:38 | So, what does that do? |
214 | 00:16:39 | What does that… |
215 | 00:16:39 | Nick: “You’re just wasting your time and mine… |
216 | 00:16:41 | Nick: …because you keep disclosing the same, old information… |
217 | 00:16:44 | Nick: …that I knew already…” |
218 | 00:16:46 | Wow |
219 | 00:16:48 | Wow |
220 | 00:16:49 | Okay, I, look, well… |
221 | 00:16:51 | Nick: “…on the one hand. On the other hand, my focus right now is the Earth.” |
222 | 00:16:55 | Nick: “You’re not taking me there as quickly as possible…” |
223 | 00:16:59 | Nick: “…and so I’m not able to hear anything else you say.” |
224 | 00:17:05 | Alright |
225 | 00:17:08 | Let me think of… |
226 | 00:17:09 | …where I want to start from. |
227 | 00:17:12 | Nick: “The time and place of the event that made you feel like you did not have enough knowledge.” |
228 | 00:17:22 | Alright, well, I’ve very interesting story. |
229 | 00:17:27 | I’d say, right now, I’d say… |
230 | 00:17:30 | Two weeks ago… |
231 | 00:17:31 | Nick: “Thank you.” |
232 | 00:17:32 | [Nick claps his hands.] |
233 | 00:17:35 | Two weeks ago… |
234 | 00:17:37 | Two weeks ago, I lost my job. I lost my summer job. |
235 | 00:17:43 | Nick: “Time out, to explain to viewers, you got me hooked.” |
236 | 00:17:54 | Nick: “I have goosebumps…” |
237 | 00:17:58 | Nick: “…with four words: I lost my job.” |
238 | 00:18:03 | Nick: “When you say, two weeks ago, I’minterested.” |
239 | 00:18:09 | Nick: “And then you say, I lost my job, I got goosebumps.” |
240 | 00:18:16 | Nick: “So, within few words, within half a sentence, you connected with the audience emotionally.” |
241 | 00:18:30 | Nick: “Compare that with your five minutes of disclosure…” |
242 | 00:18:35 | Nick: “…about life, the universe and everything, back 10 minutes ago.” |
243 | 00:18:42 | Nick: “Do you see the big difference?” |
244 | 00:18:44 | Yeah |
245 | 00:18:45 | yeah |
246 | 00:18:47 | Nick: “Now, let’s go back to that.” |
247 | 00:18:49 | Nick: “Sorry to interrupt but I need to explain to you about…” |
248 | 00:18:52 | Nick: “…the power of the Earth versus the galaxy.” |
249 | 00:18:56 | [Laughters] |
250 | 00:18:59 | Nick: “Now, my interest is heightened.” |
251 | 00:19:01 | Now, yeah |
252 | 00:19:03 | Nick: “I’m ready for what’s next in your story of, two weeks ago, I lost my job.” |
253 | 00:19:09 | Two weeks ago, I lost my job. |
254 | 00:19:12 | The story about how I lost my job is very, very interesting. [*** To be continued in Episode 2 in Season 1 of Thumoslang101 ***] |
Transcript Analysis
The following words spoken so many times in the video.
- respect 9
- life 9
- Earth 9
- galaxy 8
- interrupt 8
- interfering 7
- communication 7
- disclosing 6
- reciprocation 6
- knowledge 6
- disclosure 6
- interruption 5
- event 5
- interfere 4
- information 3
- project 3
- disrespect 3
- conversation 3
- nomenclature 3
- Thumoslang101 3
- power 3
- feel 2
- feeling 2
- focus 2
- disrespectful 2
- Thumoslang 2
- polite 2
- philosophies 1
- expert 1
- relationships 1
- believe 1
- activities 1
- demonstration 1
- Ri4CTV 1
- YouTube 1
- humanity 1
- social 1
- formal 1
- decision 1
- philosophy 1
- architect 1
- pretending 1
- argument 1
- viewers 1
- audience 1
- connected 1
- emotionally 1
- Sorry 1
- universe 1
- leader 1
- Ifeanyi 1
- reciprocity 1
- refrained 1
- electrician 1
- electricians 1
- direction 1
- interrupting 1
- Reciprocity 1
- reality 1
- analyze 1
- comprehension 1
- considered 1
- idea 1
- involved 1
- formulation 1
- interaction 1
- Reciprocation 1
- Golden 1
- benefit 1
- Rule 1
- successful 1