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ABOUT THIS: Thumoslang101, the video series, introduces Thumoslang, the nomenclature for relationships, to all around the world. If you want to become an expert in a particular field, you must first learn of its nomenclature. As the first formal nomenclature for social life, Thumoslang is set to bring humanity to Level 2.0. For a demonstration of its power, watch Season 1 of the YouTube series Thumoslang101 on Ri4CTV.
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First of all, I just want to say, thank you so much...
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for everything you did for me the last time.
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I remember seeing you...
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running into me at the park.
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While I was shadow-boxing,
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you came up to me and asked me,
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"Do you mind letting me film you?"
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From there, we had a deep conversation...
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...spanning over several hours.
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One thing you told me that really stuck with me.
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I still practice it today.
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I'm very grateful for that.
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You taught me the word, "respect",
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and what it truly means.
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You told me, respect means no interfering.
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I knew what they taught us, what respect means,
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but I did not really know the true meaning of what respect is.
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And I remember, after you told me all that,
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I went back home and pondered everything we spoke about.
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And I was like,
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...man, without interfering is truly respect.
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I then started applying that to all my life.
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I started applying that to my day-to-day activities.
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I started applying that at work.
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I started applying that to my son.
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He is two years old his name is Jeremy.
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I explained to my son what respect is.
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I try not to interfere with things in my life...
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...and it has actually helped me a lot.
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Adding that philosophy into my memory bank helped me a lot...
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...with navigating through problems in life.
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Sometimes things happen.
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Just don't interfere with it.
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It has, too, helped me with decision making.
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I'm just grateful for that.
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I told myself I want to come back for more knowledge.
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That's why I'm here today.
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Nick: "Why is that not enough?"
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Ulm..
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You know...
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I think, that is, knowledge is...
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I believe that different philosophies
apply to certain things.
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Without interfering, to me, is like an
overall type of stuff.
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Just like, when you try to build a house.
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You can be the architect but...
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...you still need electricians somewhere
to build it.
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However, you can't have the electrician until you start building the house.
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I'm in that place in my life where I need help with certain things.
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Certain things are coming up in my life right now.
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I just need help set the direction.
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I just need somebody help me redirect my mind.
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How can I become this person I'm trying to become.
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How can I create this person I'm trying to create?
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How am I...
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Ulm...
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Yeah...
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Nick: "I feel lost many sentences ago."
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Nick: Because I don't want to interfere with your disclosure,
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...I refrained myself.
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Nick: I fought hard from interrupting what you were trying to say
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Nick: That's how I display respect.
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Nick: However, you got me lost in the first few sentences...
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...because you used generic terms.
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Nick: I think that it's easier for me if you can bring me closer...
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...to a specific problem, a specific
event that made you want to come back here again.
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Nick: Make me understanding a specific problem first,
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...before you take me to the general
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Nick: Then it's easier for me to grasp what you have to say.
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Nick: But you started with the big picture and I felt lost.
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Nick: Don't show me the galaxy on the first frame.
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Nick: Show me the Earth first, and then zoom out.
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Nick: So, what brought you here?
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Ulm...
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Nick: Which event, which problem brought you here?
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Nick: Why could you not solve it under your own power?
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Ulm...
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As you ask me that question, I just
have to think about how to word myself.
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Ulm...
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Nick: "Time out!"
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I want to explain what has just transpired in the last few seconds.
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In the last minute, I practiced the knowledge that is called reciprocation.
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It is the basic cycle of communication.
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That was invented by my co-writer Mark Canny in the writing project we started in 2015.
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Halfway through the project, in 2016, he came up with reciprocation...
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...as a basic cycle of communication.
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Before I remind you of the four elements of reciprocation,
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...do you remember me telling you about that or not?
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[Ifeanyi shakes his head.]
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Okay, then let me ask you this first.
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Do you know the difference between reciprocity and reciprocation?
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Reciprocity is an eye for an eye.
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You scratch my back, I scratch yours.
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Another name for that is the Golden Rule.
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That is about mutual benefit but not about communication.
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Reciprocation is the label Mark Canny used to tag what he invented in our writing project.
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It's the most basic cycle of communication.
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If you don't understand or remember this, you would have a hard time knowing...
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...how to exercise respect every minute of your life.
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So, reciprocation has four steps.
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The first step is carried out by the speaker: disclosure.
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When you speak you are disclosing some information.
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If I interrupt your speech and ask questions about your delivered paragraph,
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...I'm not interfering because that's part of the first step, which is carried out by the speaker.
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Your disclosure is not successful if I'm not able to understand any of your delivered paragraphs.
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In that case, interruption is not interfering.
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If you are disclosing the information but, right after the first two sentences, I jump in and say I don't understand.
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Could you explain the first two sentences before you continue?
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That question is also an interruption but it is considered as interfering...
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...because I did not wait until you finish your paragraph...
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...before I do the second step, which is comprehension.
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I should never start my second step, as a
listener, before you finish your disclosure.
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If you did not finish disclosing the whole paragraph,
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...I should not even try to understand the idea that you're disclosing.
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An interruption may or may not be interfering.
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Hm...
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You don't know that if you don't understand the four elements of reciprocation.
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Most of us did not know of such things.
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Mark Canny did not analyze the reality of human interaction and label its parts until 2016.
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Once you finish disclosing your whole paragraph, then, like I demonstrated back there,
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....I said, you showed me the galaxy and I got lost right away.
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Start with the Earth first.
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That's an example of how I show respect to the speaker.
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Nick: "Sometimes, when I interrupt, I'm not disrespectful."
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Nick: "Sometimes, when I interrupt, I'm very disrespectful."
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Nick: "It depends on how much that interruption is involved with the disclosure step."
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So, help me out.
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When you said I gave you the galaxy versus the Earth I understood what you said.
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I understand it but can you help me with...
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...how to correct that formulation of sentence.
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Nick: "Say that again, please."
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How can I change my approach?
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How can I change the way I speak?
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When I was explaining myself,
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you felt like I went straight to the galaxy.
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How can I change that?
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Nick: "Always begin with the time and the place."
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Say that one more time.
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Nick: "Always begin with...
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...a specific point in time when, and a particular place where, the event took place...
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...that brought us together for this conversation."
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So, always begin with time...
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Nick: "Time and place..."
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Nick: "...so that people begin with the Earth first, before you bring them to another galaxy."
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[Laughters]
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So, okay. So, I should say like, so, time, like...
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Nick: "For example,
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...my wife and I are having a big argument...
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...but this is different from the past.
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A week ago, she started this and I reacted in that way.
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Suddenly, you have a hook to heighten my interest.
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In that way, I first focus on the Earth before you zoom out and say,
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"You see, this is related to another event, in another galaxy, long ago."
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Nick: And then I can start to see the whole galaxy without feeling lost.
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Yeah...
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Nick: Always begin with time and place.
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Yeah, I've always known that too.
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My communication is often scattered.
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I jump everywhere.
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I noticed that.
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Nick: When people are polite, and most people are polite,
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...they will not raise their hand and say that they are lost.
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Nick: Instead, they continue sitting pretty and pretending like they're listening.
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Nick: However, as you're talking and while they're feeling lost,
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Nick: ...they think about other problems in their life.
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Nick: Because they couldn't follow you
and yet they don't want to interrupt.
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Nick: If they did that, they interfere, disrespect the conversation.
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Nick: They disrespect their time.
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Nick: They disrespect your time,
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...as the communication cycle fails.
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Nick: As a listener, you have to interrupt when the communication cycle fails.
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Nick: Otherwise, without your interruption, the speaker goes on and on,
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... and waste everyone's time.
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Well...
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Nick: Knowing when to interrupt, and when not interrupt,
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...could not be nailed down as a science until 2016,
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...when that knowledge was spelled out mathematically.
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I like that.
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I'm very... That's why I was coming back.
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I come back for more knowledge.
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This is the only place that I know for sure you can dissect me and break me down,
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...and really show me what I need to do and how I need to grow as a person.
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I'm a very good student.
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I want to learn.
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I want to be a great male one day.
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I want to be a leader.
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I want to lead my people.
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I want to lead people.
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I want to...
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Nick: "There you go again."
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Nick: "You are taking me away from the Earth, before you show me the Earth."
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So, you bring that up...
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Nick: "You are wasting your time and my time again."
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Really, break it down for me.
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Nick: "Start with the time and place of your problem."
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Nick: "What's the specific problem that brought you here?"
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Oh no, but I wasn't talking about a problem.
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I was just thanking you.
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I'm thanking you.
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Nick: "You are not telling me anything that I didn't know."
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Nick: "You want to learn."
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Nick: "That's why you're here."
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Nick: "If you tell me that once, not bad; twice, not way too bad."
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Nick: "But I hear that several times today already."
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Nick: And I thus say, wait a minute,
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Nick: ...why did he keep telling me all of that again and again?
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Ah...
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Nick: In there, out here
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Ah...
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So, I said that numerous times.
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So, what does that do?
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What does that...
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Nick: "You're just wasting your time and mine...
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Nick: ...because you keep disclosing the same, old information...
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Nick: ...that I knew already..."
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Wow
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Wow
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Okay, I, look, well...
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Nick: "...on the one hand. On the other hand, my focus right now is the Earth."
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Nick: "You're not taking me there as quickly as possible..."
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Nick: "...and so I'm not able to hear anything else you say."
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Alright
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Let me think of...
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...where I want to start from.
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Nick: "The time and place of the event that made you feel like you did not have enough knowledge."
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Alright, well, I've very interesting story.
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I'd say, right now, I'd say...
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Two weeks ago...
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Nick: "Thank you."
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[Nick claps his hands.]
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Two weeks ago...
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Two weeks ago, I lost my job. I lost my summer job.
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Nick: "Time out, to explain to viewers, you got me hooked."
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Nick: "I have goosebumps..."
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Nick: "...with four words: I lost my job."
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Nick: "When you say, two weeks ago, I'm
interested."
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Nick: "And then you say, I lost my job, I got goosebumps."
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Nick: "So, within few words, within half a sentence, you connected with the audience emotionally."
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Nick: "Compare that with your five minutes of disclosure..."
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Nick: "...about life, the universe and everything, back 10 minutes ago."
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Nick: "Do you see the big difference?"
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yeah
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Nick: "Now, let's go back to that."
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Nick: "Sorry to interrupt but I need to explain to you about..."
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Nick: "...the power of the Earth versus the galaxy."
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[Laughters]
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Nick: "Now, my interest is heightened."
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Now, yeah
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Nick: "I'm ready for what's next in your story of, two weeks ago, I lost my job."
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Two weeks ago, I lost my job.
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[*** To be continued by Episode 2 in Season 1 of Thumoslang101 ***]
The story about how I lost my job is very, very interesting.
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